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03/09/2008 Sent by Valaree

Keep Up The Good Work Encouraging Women To Embrace Being A Housewife, Not Regret It!


I'm 21 years old, and I consider myself to be a Retro Housewife.

After I finished High School, I took my love for cooking and trying new recipes and attended a one year technical school program for catering. I was hoping to do something exciting with my life like becoming a wedding planner or a chef in some hot shot restaurant. Part of attending technical school, is working while being trained (externships); I quickly realized that the industry is very stressful and demanding. I started to lose touch with my love and passion for cooking and baking. Cooking for hundreds of people was MUCH different than cooking for my parents, friends, and family. I was working long hours, becoming tired, and acting grouchy, a personality that I never had associated myself with. I was 19 and hated the beginning of my adulthood.

It just so happened that not long after I was resenting my new career- I got laid off from the job I had been offered after graduating. At first I was heart broken, but then I decided it was a "sign" for me to step back and really decide what I wanted to do with my life. I started thinking more about my options. At this same time I was two months away from marrying my high school sweetheart, and he did something for me that I will always be very grateful for. He worked out a budget plan based on his income that would allow me to stay home. What a sweetie!

We have been very happily married for almost two years and we are proud of our "simple" lifestyle decision. We don't live in a mansion on a hill top, we don't have fancy cars, clothes, or designer linens....we don't have I-Phones, the latest in computers, or an X-Box......we don't drink, smoke, or eat out very fact, we don't even have cable. I could care less if we did have all of those things. Someone else on this site put it well- "You can't take those things with you!"

I pride myself in buying things with coupons, and waiting for promotional sales. I compare prices wherever I go, always looking for the "right price" on items we use frequently. I put my catering training and job experience to work when I cook and bake from scratch daily- something that earned me at 21 years of age the "pride" of hosting Thanksgiving dinner for my family this last year (with comments for every year to follow). I love having dinner parties and cooking for church functions. I clean and do laundry every day and never tire of the clean fresh smells surrounding me. I spend my free time with family and friends and if someone needs me, I could be there at the drop of the hat. My husband treats me with respect, and I have a great respect for him. I honestly don't mind waiting on him if he needs something, or having dinner ready when he gets home. I don't think of myself as a lazy person, but I am glad that if I want to snuggle under the covers for an extra hour or take a few moments and read or do a craft- no one stops me.

Being young, married, and a housewife does have challenges in today's society. I don't have any children (at this point in my life), so when people ask me what I do for a living, and I reply "I stay home"- I usually get funny looks or verbally accused... "Why? You don't have children.... Don't you want a career? Don't you get bored? You are so young not to make something of yourself.... What do you do all day?" There are a lot of people out there trying to figure out a way to get me a job, while I try to figure out ways to make the best of staying home!

It's a battle for me to find people who share similar values and interest. People who really understand the desire to take care of their home and family. When I came across your website I spent hours reading the articles and blogs. It was so refreshing to "read" thoughts from other women who enjoy the role of being a wife and mother more than climbing the corporate ladder. It's a wonderful feeling to be reminded that life is good and I'm lucky to have the opportunity to stay home.

Keep up the good work encouraging women to embrace being a housewife, not regret it! :)

 Misery loves company - that's why they want to get you a job. When you have kids, we won't be hearing about them on the 6:00 news along with how many they shot. They will know how good freshly baked bread tastes, and how good it feels to come home to a welcoming mother after school.

Don't worry - This is my story and I'm sticking with it! Happy as a clam, I am! RH