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Young Guy That Wants It All, 2008-04-23
Good Afternoon Mrs. RH,
I'm a young professional, effectively self employed. I have never really imagined having a stay at home wife, however, my girlfriend has indicated that this is her passion - she does want to dedicate her time and energy to fully taking care of me and does believe in very traditional roles. She is a professional model, and choreographer - and would continue working on her art with it. The simple truth is that I don't fully understand how it can be fulfilling - I was raised in a single parent household (by my mother) and always taught that being at home - especially if there are no kids involved would drive a woman crazy with boredom. In addition, the vast majority of the female members of my family would be considered very strong independent career women.
I live a demanding life - our company has a global focus and is not yet profitable....as such I spend as much as 12 to 18 hrs a day working and often forget to eat etc. The thought of having a loving, supporting partner is an attractive one, however, I've received input from current young housewives (of Latin / Caribbean) without children that by being home alone are bored / frustrated / and jealous of the amount of time and energy spent outside the home working (esp. with female co-workers etc).
I do realize that I also have some preconceived notions - I love my girlfriend - she's a great cook, and I think she'll do all the domestic chores of the house admirable. To be very frank, as a high testosterone, high sex drive guy - I can understand her being tired or not in the mood as she works and attends school full time --- I would have little to no understanding of not having my physical needs met on a very frequent and continuous basis.
I know I've provided a good bit of information, and my questions at core are about understanding how to make such a relationship work (financial - <provide her with personal spending money weekly etc..how that would work.... / division of household duties / allowance for the woman , the oft unstated expectations from the woman's point of view....whether or not some of my expectations (physical needs et al) are realistic etc. Our company is new and I would only propose if I was sure I could in fact support not only her, but also any children that we may have.....
I look forward to your response.
With regards,
A Young guy that wants it all
Marvin
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